Up to the 60s, America was perking along pretty much as societies have moved along. Dad went to work, mom stayed at home, divorce rate was very small relative to today and the kids went to school. For the majority, life was good as long as you weren’t black and didn’t mind being a housewife or were ok about fighting a war.

People, for the most part, want stability in their lives with little change. Unfortunately, this was impossible in the 60s without dealing correctly with the American society problems. What ensued after these events mentioned in Problems in the Family, Problems in Society part 1, gained momentum was a complete rejection of most traditional values. In other words, it was the proverbial “throwing out the baby with the bath water”.

Instead of taking full advantage of new freedoms, many youth took to drugs. Instead of finding ways to find meaning in the war, the youth told the parents “look what a mess you’ve caused”, and ceased to be open to the wisdom available to them from their most valued resource, namely their parents. Lastly, women, who wanted to stay in the home were looked at as less important. Lowered self esteem ensued for housewives, families suffered and divorce rates sored as a search for meaning outside the home replaced the same search which usually happened within the family. All these problems which had their dawn in the 60s are still with us in full force as marriage problems and American society problems of today.

So how did I find my happiness? I regrouped. I did something I hadn’t done in years and thought I would never do again. What I’m about to say was just my tactic. You will have to find your own.

I went to a synagogue. It was the weirdest thing. I read the English and told myself “let me see what I was missing”. So I joined a study group with very bright people who just wanted to learn and argue the points just like me. I mention doing this because in the right group all that spirituality that brings meaning to your life is right there for you. I don’t care what you do as long as you move to an active spiritual direction that is profound enough to make your actions equal to your talking.

What you spend a lot of time focused on is what you become. For me, spending more time reading the bible was instrumental because the stories are profound and epic. Whatever you find that works for you, as long as it doesn’t teach hate of others are immensely important to surround yourself with. Miraculously, as you immerse yourself in spirituality you will attract others who feel similar. The beginning of solving American society problems and marriage problems begins with being connected to empowering people and thought.

Part 3 will follow.

Dr. Robert Bocknek is the problem solving expert for parents and families. Find him at Take Back the Home Project or Keyboard culture. You can also contact him at Bocknek@takebackthehome.com

     

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