In part 1 of “Parenting and Unconditional Positive Regard”, we talked about dealing with issues regarding your child’s school issues. In this issue, I want to talk about daily things we do or don’t do and what makes a good parent, resembles our action.

I want to start this discussion with the premise that your desire to have a great relationship with your children, is a core part of what you view as what makes a good parent.

Let’s start by looking at how we view activities with our children. What makes a good parent is getting to the mindset that scheduling in time with our kids, (including our teens), is an essential pathway to creating a positive relationship with our children.

What did what I just said mean? It meant explain to your kids why you want to schedule in time with them.

What makes a good parent is;

1.) wanting to be with your kids,

2.) communicating that message to them,

3.) engaging them in conversation when you are with them,

4.) acknowledge your love for them and encourage them to do the same.

If you do nothing but these four steps with your kids, you will see a huge improvement in your relationship with them. What these times do for you and your kids is cement them understanding how much you care for them. What this allows you to do then is, when the time comes when they do badly in school, or are disobedient and you have to discipline them, makes the situation about bad behavior and not about how you feel about them. This is the value of appropriate unconditional positive regard as discussed in part 1 of this article.

What makes a good parent is enjoying your kids, leading your kids, having unconditional positive regard for your kids and making them great additions to your country.

Sincerely,

Dr. Bocknek

The Problem Solving Expert for Parents and Families

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Dr. Robert Bocknek is the problem solving expert for marriage, parents and families at www.takebackthehome.com and www.keyboard-culture-parenting.com.  He can be reached at bocknek@takebackthehome.com. He is author of the “Take Back the Home course” and the “Learning how to Learn course” which can be seen at www.takebackthehome.com.

     

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